The Etiquette of Monogrammed Jewelry

Monogrammed jewelry comes with a very personal and traditional detail, but is it true that there’s etiquette involved? Definitely! But what basis does this etiquette have?

Plenty of things are involved in monogramming etiquette, including letter sizes, correct sequence of initials, whether or not the couple is heterosexual, and all the others. Do the possibilities confuse you? They’re not really that difficult, but you do need know more about monogramming.

Monogramming is actually the world’s earliest form of identification, going back well into the times of the Greeks and Romans. It has served many purposes – as a signature for royals and artists, as a form of currency in the barter system, as a sign of social status, and more. Perhaps the most apparent role that monograms play today is the identification of properties, from champagne glasses to yes, jewelry. Of course, we know that they are usually ornate, and that’s what makes monogramming a popular option for gift-giving.

Single-letter Monograms

One-letter monograms are traditionally based on the surname. That’s how it goes for both men and single women. These days, an unmarried woman would have a single-letter monogram featuring the first letter of her first name

Three-letter Monograms

The monograms used these days are mainly traditional Victorian, which includes three letters. The arrangement of these letters depend on two factors – marital status and the sizes of the letters in the monogram.

One-size Letters

If you see a monogram whose letters are of the same size, such letters are expected to be the first of the person’s first, middle and last name in that exact order. Also, this arrangement is for single men and single women.

Large Surname Letter in the Middle

For single men and women, he first letters of their first, last and middle names should be used in that exact sequence. And the surname must be the centered and largest font.

There are two concepts in terms of married couples. One is that the first initial of the bride must be on the left of the surname initial, and the first initial of the groom is on the right – as in the principle of “ladies first.” Historically, this style is commonly used in linens.

A more modern setup is the groom’s first initial coming before the bride’s, to follow the tradition of Mr. & Mrs. While used on glasses and tableware before, this is also popular with jewelry these days. For married women, the woman traditionally uses the initial of her maiden name as her middle initial in a three-letter monogram. Alternatively, she can use the initials of her first name, middle name and married name. Finally, for gay couples, the initials of both their names will be taken together and used as the surname.